Why our family does not participate in the usual trick or treats and halloween costume parties

Halloween is just around the corner and decorations abound wherever we go even in our neighborhood.  As usual, we see a lot of bats, spider webs, witches, and many other scary characters scattered in places that many people frequent.  It's that time of year again when I need to do a lot of expplaining to my very curious little boy why there are a lot of decors like that.  I thank the Lord that our family was able to attend the Mass at SM Cinema 4 last night as part of The Feast Sucat gathering.  It was our second time to attend The Feast in Sucat.  Fr. Larry Faraon gave a very timely homily during the Mass.  His homily affirmed me and my husband in the decision we made years ago of not participating in trick or treats  or Halloween costume parties that do not uphold the real reason for the celebration.   Let me share some of the things/points that Fr. Larry shared/raised in his homily that strengthened my resolve in this issue.

1. Don't say it's just a harmless costume party to make kids happy and let kids enjoy.  The devil is the father of lies and he is good at deception. That is what he wants us, Christians, to think.  He wants us to think that there is nothing wrong with the practices, costumes, etc. The truth is that he is actually deceiving us believers by making us believe that he is not behind these activities so that we would be lured to participate. Fr. Larry quoted a verse from Holy Scriptures: "Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." (1 Peter 5:8)  The devil has successfully penetrated modern society by destroying this supposedly beautiful celebration.  But we can prevent this from affecting our families with a piece of advice from Fr. Larry which I will put in number two.
2. Don't give the devil a chance to enter your hearts and your homes.  We need to be more discerning in this time and age as Christians; otherwise, we would be easily lured and conformed to the influences of our surroundings.  Fr. Larry adviced parents against dressing our kids in scary or demonic costumes and decorating our homes with things/items associated with evil spirits and the dark world because it's like inviting the enemy into our homes and our lives.  He warned us that the enemy would happily indulge himself and take our acts of welcome seriously.  He adviced us to ignore the enemy and his presence instead.  After hearing Fr. Larry say these words, I felt affirmed that I had been ignoring the commercialized/unChristian Halloween celebrations that abound during this time of year.  These celebrations have always made me feel uncomfortable and last night God used Fr. Larry to explain why I was feeling that way all along.  Now, I feel more empowered to explain to my little boy  why we do not participate in these parties.  Not that he wants to join these parties, because he actually finds them scary.  Fr. Larry said that instead of celebrating Halloween as modern/western society does, he encouraged us Filipinos to celebrate it by being true to our Catholic faith, by celebrating the beauty of the communion of Saints and by introducing our newest Filipino Saint to our kids, Saint Pedro Calungsod.  He said that by doing this, we are ignoring the enemy/devil and his presence in our society and thus not giving him a chance to enter our lives.  It is also an opportuned time to teach our kids about the beauty of our faith and that there are Saints who can inspire us in our walk with God and whom we should emulate.  This gave me an idea of who to introduce to our eldest son come All Saints' Day next weekend.  We have started a family tradition in the past years of celebrating Halloween or All Saints' Day differently and we intend to do this again this year.  You may click here to read a previous post I made a couple of years ago on how we can celebrate All Saints' Day meaningfully according to our Catholic faith.
3. The commercialized celebrations of Halloween distracts us Catholics from celebrating and passing on the rich faith heritage that we have in our Church to our children. Instead of teaching our kids about the real reason of the celebration which is the celebration of All Saints Day and our Catholic doctrine of the communion of Saints, our attention and energies are spent following the trends dictated by modern society. 
   
   
   

   

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         Let me quote from Sacred Scriptures again: "Do not be conformed to this world (this

         age),   [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be

         transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its

         new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable

         and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in

         His sight for you]." (Romans 12:2 AMP)

        Here are other versions to help us further understand the meaning/message in this 

        verse:

        "Don’t be conformed to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing

         of your minds so that you can figure out what God’s will is—what is good and pleasing

         and mature." (CEB)

        "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, 

         that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable

         and perfect." (ESV)

        "Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you

         inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of

         God—what is good and is pleasing to him and is perfect." (ERV)

    4.  The enemy of the best is the good.  This was one line/lesson Fr. Larry shared and it's

        true once more in how this truth is embodied in today's modern/commercialized

        celebrations of Halloween.  Aside from parties that encourage kids to dress in

        scary/evil/forces of darkness costumes, there are also parties that encourage kids to

        dress up as superheroes.  Superheroes are good people.  They are portrayed as

        superhumans who fight the evil or bad people in society.  But they are not the best

        people that our kids should look up to as role models.  Christ, the Saints and the men

        and women in the Bible who lived out holy lives are still the best role models for our

        kids and us.  Moreover, superheroes are not real people who truly fought both external

        and internal battles and emerged victorious.  The battles that superheroes fight also

        are most of the time limited to this world.  Introducing the Saints and the holy people in

        the Bible enables us parents to share about life eternal to our kids.  This helps them

        see beyond this time and age, beyond this life and teach them that they are actually

        citizens of heaven and are pilgrims only in this earth.  These are essential

        teachings/catechesis that we should be sharing with our children if we are to offer them

        the best. 

Having said that, how do we Catholics/Christians celebrate Halloween in a way that would glorify God and honor the Saints?  There are many ways and suggestions and I encourage you to read these for ideas.  There are many more that you can discover in the internet through blogs of many Catholic/Christian moms. 

Celebrating All Saints' Day Meaningfully and Establishing a New Family Tradition

All Saints' Day Party Party Ideas for Kids

All Saints' Day Party Games

A Colossal Set of Resources for All Saints' Day
How to honor Saints on All Saints Day
How to observe All Saints Day
How to make a Saint Costume
How to make Biblical Costume
Saint Costume Ideas

Let's bring back the "hallow" in Halloween and honor the Saints on All Saints' Day!